Saturday, August 27, 2016

Persistence is Waking up and Having the Same Dream Every Day

Incredibly busy learning to become a sensei, more posts are coming once I finish next week.

In the meantime, take a listen to my life right now:

Friday, August 12, 2016

"The Joy Is In The Journey" - Me

Picture this: it is early in the morning and you are cruising down a highway, you are the only one on the road, the road is surrounded by Summer plains, your windows are down and the breeze is whipping through your luscious locks. You don't give a fuck! You can smell the grass around the as it gets wafted through on the breeze. You can feel the hair in your wind. You can hear the wind whip against all of the different parts of your car. What an amazing feeling!

That depth of observance should occur in EVERYTHING we do. I hate to break it to you, but nothing in the future is going to make you more happy than you can be right now. That new house? Nope. That new job? Nope. That new lover? Nope. This is my own philosophical opinion, but happiness occurs by being aware of everything that is happening in the present moment, i.e. what are you seeing, feeling, hearing, smelling, or thinking. There is little connection between the activity that you are doing and the senses that you are experiencing/the thoughts you have. In other words, you could be doing something simple or be involved in a complex task, but that should not affect how aware you are of the present moment. 

How about it then, let's start appreciating where we are at in the world.

Having dreams in life is something we can all benefit from. There is nothing harmful from having set a high bar for the things we want to achieve. However, I would like to draw attention to what happens inside our minds when we start chasing some of these dreams. We often have a vivid imagination about what we will be or what we have achieved once we obtain our dream. This also imbues us with an intense motivation to wake up and take the next step towards accomplishing our goals. I can tell you that I have this feeling throughout every single day of my life and I must reiterate that these emotions are good to have! But it is also important for us to realize that we are such ambitious people, and we often do not give ourselves enough credit for how far we have made it. We need to just learn to let go!

There is a lot of comfort that can obtained by living along the lines of the old dusty saying, "the joy is in the journey, not the destination."  Instead of saving up all the enjoyment until once we reach the end goal, does it not make sense to enjoy the whole process?  You are completely able to feel happiness along the road towards your dreams.  All you need to do is free yourself from any anxious thoughts or beliefs that make you think once you are on the other side you will suddenly be full of happiness.  This is how people end up chasing happiness without ever realizing that it has been with them all along.  Lucky for us, we are smart enough to make this realization and break away from that never ending cycle.  We get to choose our happiness and we choose to be happy every moment of every day, starting right now!  There is no doubt that we are going to achieve our dreams, but we are going to enjoy every moment of the journey along the way!

A note from a wise woman.

Monday, August 1, 2016

3 Interesting Facts

  1. I can snap a pencil with my bare hands.
  2. I like drawing ninja stick figures.
  3. Someday I am going to train with Ninjas.

Waking Up

What are you afraid of doing?

We all have that one ambition that we hold back on because we are afraid of failing. It is time to wake up and pursue that goal! This could be anything from asking the girl that you like out on a date, writing a letter to someone who treated you well, quitting your job, or possibly traveling to an unfamiliar place. If you feel stuck or trapped, that is absolutely not true; you have control over every part of your life. It can be effortless to get cozy in our comfort zone and then forget how to challenge ourselves again. But, it can be simple to start challenging ourselves again. Every time we challenge ourselves (starting right now) it becomes easier and easier to do it. The very thing that was initially uncomfortable becomes what we find fulfillment in.

There are tons of societal pressures that young adults have to endure every day and the amount of pressure is only increasing with newer generations. Of course, there have been multitudes of technological advancements that have contributed to this. But think about this, our grandparents most likely experienced much different types of pressures than we are going through. In America, it was our grandparents dream to own a house with a big yard, a white picket fence, and have a family. This is what we call The American Dream. Now, my generation typically has much more complex ambitions than the simplistic dreams of our grandparents. However, with those big dreams comes a lot more pressure along the journey. Dealing with pressure is not that big of a price to pay for having such high ambitions though. There are plenty of ways to deal with the pressure, such as meditation, journaling, blogging, talking to friends, etc...

Now that we realize how big our dreams are, we can start to do something about them. They are often scary and require us to go against our normal way of life. There is no reason to feel afraid of that though. Ponder this: would you rather be uncomfortable for a month or so, or be happy with what you are doing for the next couple years of your life? When you put it into perspective it does not seem that scary. In fact, once you take the first step into the unknown, everything starts to become much more comfortable. It is taking that first step which is the hardest part. You can treat it like a band-aid, either take it off slowly, or rip it off and get it over with. Compile a big list of your ambitions and start to get an understanding for what it would take to reach them. What is the first step you have to take? Remember, if it seems scary to do then just put it into perspective.  Bill Burr has a good quote about this topic:

"Realize that sleeping on a futon when you're 30 is not the worst thing. You know what's worse, sleeping in a king bed next to a wife you're not really in love with but for some reason you married, and you got a couple kids, and you got a job you hate. You'll be laying there fantasizing about sleeping on a futon. There's no risk when you go after a dream. There's a tremendous amount of risk to playing it safe."

Understanding what your ambitions are is not not enough on its own, you need to act! Carpe diem, or seize the day! Realize what the first step you need to take is and then go about actually taking that step. Make a promise to yourself, write it down, tell a friend or family member, do whatever it takes to make yourself committed to this. After that, all that you have to do is actually take the first step and continue along the path. Of course, there are going to be times when you become less motivated and need some inspiration. This is why it is a good idea to write out your ambitions and everything you want to accomplish, so that you can look back upon it and get the inspiration you need. However, for now you should just be focused on taking that courageous first step! Today is your window of opportunity: